There will always be someone in your life, either directly or indirectly, that is going to talk shit about you. As long as we let this affect us, we are still in Hotmess Mode. Set the expectation that people are going to talk shit, then when it happens it is easier to handle.
Ladies, whatever you do, keep being you. Do not ever let someone make you feel like what you are doing is wrong, or not good enough. We are all just doing our best to be the best version of ourselves. Unfortunately, there are a lot of trolls out there, especially on social media that will try to tear you down. These individuals literally know nothing about you or your life. They have zero reason to be mean and judge, but for some reason have nothing better to do with their day than try to tear others down.
I think we all need to remember that the people on our social media platforms really only get to see what we allow them to see. As I have said before, not a single person has walked a minute in our shoes, nor have we in theirs. It is truly not that hard to be kind. It goes back to the old saying “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”. This is really not that hard to follow.
As women we are geared to serve and impress. This is BS. Do not live this way ladies. The only person you need to impress and serve is yourself. Obviously, we are going to care for our loved ones, but that doesn’t mean they get to tear us down in the process. Being comfortable with yourself both internally and externally is one of the most freeing feelings in life.
I have mentioned before, I used to be hugely co-dependent and too empathetic. While I am still an empath by nature, I have learned to put boundaries in place that prevent co-dependency from creeping in. While some will mistake your love and respect for yourself, and ability to set boundaries as a bad thing. Let me guarantee you, those are not your people. Your people will cheer you on and see your growth. Support you in your journey and love watching you evolve into the Goddess you already are deep inside.
Entering Goddess Mode does not mean we are perfect. There is no such thing as perfect. Everyone has their own version of what perfect looks like. Some would tell you that I am a total Hotmess. Others would tell you that I am in complete Goddess Mode. Really, they are both right. There will always be moments in our life where we revert into Hotmess moments. That does not mean that we are a Hotmess.
Life is full of curvy roads, bumps in the road, hurdles to jump, and bad calls by the refs. But if we are comfortable with ourselves and know we are doing our best then nothing is going to stop us.
I have witnessed a lot of unnecessary cruelty on the internet lately. Between my own pages and my friends. This behavior is getting out of control. Why have we gotten to the place in life where people get kicks out of tearing others down, for ridiculous things?
Everyone is entitled to their own opinions. But there is a tactful way to get your opinion across to others. Even more so, not everyone is going to share your opinion. If everyone thought the same way, where would we get our individuality from. If we were all the same life would not be good for any of us.
The joy of this life we live, is we are all our own individual shelf. All unique and able to share things with others.
Please ladies if you feel the need to tear another person down, especially another female, on the internet, please just don’t. Find a hobby, call a friend, clean your house, go for a drive, workout, make a cup of coffee, go take a bath, really anything to stop yourself from tearing someone down unnecessarily.
Pride yourself in being a woman’s woman. Be the woman that straighten another’s crown without telling the world it was crooked.
On this journey called life. Just be kind. Kindness is not always easy, but it is necessary. Keep working on you. Becoming the best version of yourself, without bringing others down along the way will bring you to full on Goddess Mode.
